Dating at times is too tricky for many. In spite of being “connected” with many people via myspace, many singles still find it an almost impossible task to look for their loved ones, develop and maintain a satisfying intimate relationship.
Time and again I discover singles who, without also knowing it, shoot themselves in the foot in relationships. Being unaware of doing so, they cannot know what they need to change to be able to succeed next time around.
Self-Awareness might be the only route you haven’t taken all this time in your attempts to find a spouse with whom to develop a booming intimacy. Paradoxically enough, this will be the only road which can take your there.
Taking responsibility means: you decide, once and for all, to become cognizant of a host of factors which drive you to fail inside your relationships. Could it be your thought patterns towards the other sex? May well these be your doubts and needs which drive you to behave in self-sabotaging ways? Could these come to be messages you internalized at a young age about how family relationships “should” look like – emails which now, as person of legal age, come back to haunt you?
Taking responsibility for your success or failing at relationships is a key to making a significant modification leading to success. It is only if you take responsibility and stay truly motivated to understand, for good, what hinders your efforts that you embark on the road to make sure you success.
It is when you ask yourself these – as well – questions; when you check inwards and observe your self; and when you develop the Self-Awareness, that you can finally de-activate the power these factors have got exerted upon you, and free yourself to re-think how you approach partners and romantic relationships.
It is as if meeting “the best suited person” stays only a good dream. Many singles holiday resort to hiring personal luxury motor coaches, advisors or dating experts with the task of coordinating them with the “right” someone, convincing themselves that they are basically too busy to look, search and find.
Accordingly, it makes no significant difference on how many dates they go and how many relationships they attempt to develop: they neglect over and over again, for the simple factor that they just never take time to understand what they do of which harms their attempts.
May well these be unrealistic objectives and fantasies about companions and relationships which get you to expect the out of the question (and blame your partners time and again)? May well this be your perception of reality, being won over that “your way” from thinking, feeling and executing things is always “the right way”, and your partner’s “the wrong way”?
But is it genuinely so? Is it really a general shortage of time that inhibits these from finding the right person? And also could it be that even when they meet a potential partner many singles just have no idea of how to develop a healthy and successful relationship? Could it be that they’re unaware of the many ways in which that they sabotage their attempts in intimacy?
That they therefore resort to finding one and thousand excuses to make sure you justify their failures, not the least is: shortage of your energy. Resorting to dating services can be one way to not take task for their failed attempts. “Let someone else do the job”, they tell themselves, “Then it will not be my singular responsibility for yet another failed attempts. “