Certainly, my oldest daughter text messaging, posts, and video shows. Yes, she is acutely aware of when it is “time” to renew the wardrobe with a few new pieces from the latest fashion trends. Yes, your lady often rolls her little brown eyes at my “weird” behaviors. And yes, friends are at the highest of her sharing list these days.
I was truly mesmerised by her expression of deep wisdom that has taken many of us divorces, health maladies, and endless searches throughout different veins of the exterior world to figure out. What my dear girl was saying through the example of summer time camp–one of any possible outer examples–probably resonates by means of most of us when looked at strongly.
Not necessarily what I experienced several years back (alright twenty-six many back to be exact) in the tender age of 14. Recently my daughter and I were discussing with certainty if she would attend, once again, a good three week all girls’ camp for the junior high summer in a row.
She promised me that she was not “knocking” camp in any way and will choose to return, but any time she does go back designed for another year or 3, it would not be considering that camp experience allows the woman’s to feel more realistic in any way. Her return would be based on the conscious, sole (soul) choice to attend considering she enJOYs the experience in no way because it is a “safe” spot for a be herself fully in the world.
While some parents desire status, monetary reward and upward societal movement for their children–none of which are poor per say–beyond those outdoor pursuits, my deepest heart’s desire for mine can be voiced most succinctly through Shakespeare, “To thine own personal be true. ” EnLIGHTenment at its best.
This lady went on to give the case of seeing quite undoubtedly that she doesn’t ought to go anywhere specific (camp), do anything special (canoe) or be anything different (a camper) to look authentic, open, connected and free. While she definitely views camp as a great thing, she knows that she is enough just as she is with or without camp to help you remind her of that internal knowing.
Using a palpable gratitude for all with the opportunities and lessons discovered from her previous camp experiences, she began to share her deeper thoughts on that subject and beyond. She shared that while camp is touted as a destination to be fully and authentically yourself, create a sisterhood, improve a connection to nature, and explore your core through contemplation and solitude, the purpose of it all is to come to understand that inner bond is available anywhere, anytime, and a lot of importantly in the NOW.
Indeed, a typical teen in so many ways, Apart from underneath the North Face layer and the Ugg boots, in back of the gaggle of giddy girlfriends and the fluorescent screen, and even beyond our sexual family discussions and distributed dinners, there lies a self-awareness and interior blossoming that seems unfathomable for a child her age.
We do not need to go somewhere special or do something unusual to live our own truth. Quite simply, freedom to be comfortable in this own skin should not be preserved for places that we check out three weeks a year. Self-Love can be cultivated in all solutions, always.
She even voiced that the songs about sisterhood, respect, and caring, many with a “free to be you” theme, seemed a bit funny to her now, showing that while appreciative of the sentiment, she hoped the fact that her fellow campers experienced free to be themselves above the activities in nature, communal cabins, and family eating dinner. In short, everywhere.
Although we encouraged all of our kids to try overnight camp at least once, we have told her that decision to return is now entirely up to her. As any discussion ensued, I became almost mesmerized by her capacity to articulate the girl’s vantage point on the subject.
Yes, my son has her challenges, her snarky attitudes, her moments of self-doubt. Yes, the girl can sometimes be mean to her siblings, sassy to the girl’s parents, generally ornery. And yet, underneath it all are ever-expanding and deep cracks of self-awareness, self-love and true consideration for others that will serve but not just her, but the world at large, quite well.